What is family? I suppose Webster has a definition but my family has never fit the definition of anything but crazy, certifiable crazy. Visiting my niece Cora this past weekend reminded me that family is complicated. Complicated as we share DNA, common foundation and family stories but other than that, what?
Hurt feelings, miscommunication and distrust? Yep. Joy, laughter and comfort? Yep, that too.
Why can't we live with both? For me, it is simple, I deserve better. If you say you love me unconditionally then do it. Call me on my BS but wrap it with love not hypocrisy, don't cast stones at other family members and then expect me not to think I am a target too.
I wouldn't put up with that with me friends, who I have selected so I certainly shouldn't take it from a family member right ?
I believe in water under the bridge, I believe time heals some wounds and I believe in most of all unconditional love even if you don't. The thing with my family, you see, is that I will be spending eternity with most if not all of them so I feel convicted to do something, the only thing I can do, pray.
Pray for those that do the hurting as well as those that are hurting because if I am honest I have been on both sides of the hurt. I tend to believe someone prayed for me, prayed for wisdom and clarity of my words as well as comfort and healing for my hurt.
I love my family, all of them, I may not always like what they do or say but when all is said and done I love them. I am not sure if some days that makes me a fool, I know it doesn't make me a saint but hopefully through it all I can be Christ-like. That is a powerful order but I am going to try, I want to know my prayers are fervent and true and that even if my family isn't to be "healed" or "healthy" my family is mine and I have done right by them.
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